A couple of months ago, I made a decision.  A decision, which initially appears silly and irresponsible.  However, if you were to look deeper, you’d uncover the sense in it.  I considered sharing this after my next move but for some reason this just seems like the perfect time.

Ride with me.

Let’s start by discussing you!

You are one of a kind.  A unique brand.  You are in a niche of your own.  A one person niche.  You are a driver, a leader, a powerhouse.  In the words of Beyonce, you don’t have to prove anything to anyone, you only have to follow your heart and concentrate on what YOU want to say to the world.  YOU RUN YOUR OWN WORLD!


That’s power so great, it could easily be destructive…so pay attention.

Now that you’ve been reminded of YOU, how about we back track a bit…

Growing up, there was a map.  Tell me you know this map.  It was an invisible map.  It looked something like this.


I’m not sure if you recognize it but if we grew up under similar circumstances, the chances are that you do.

As you’ve grown older, you’ve of course noticed the flaws in the map; the crooked paths, the unspoken challenges, the road blocks, the obstacles e.t.c.  With all the rigmaroles, you somehow still manage to maintain that this map is the truth.  If it doesn’t work this way, then life just doesn’t work at all.


you not about that life

One wrong turn does not deserve many more.  The fact that you went to school for Accounting, like I did, does not mean that you must remain within that field for the rest of your life.

You must allow your sphere of thought to grow beyond what it was originally use to.  With new experiences and discoveries of your interests, allow room for change.  Some people are blessed with knowing that they want to be Doctors or Lawyers right from childhood, but what happens if you just don’t know?  What if you only discover the real you at 35? Would you remain within the confines of past expectations? The discovery of passion and purpose is not set to happen BY a certain time (in our early years), but when it does happen, you’ve got to stop dancing with the devil.

dancing with the devil

…and take what’s yours!

At that moment, you should be ready to step away from a less than passionate life experience.  Drop all that you’ve known to step into your next phase.  Fail to consider the years of “Accounting” as a waste, for that experience may have pushed you into your passion.  You do realize that the ‘bads’ of life are essential learning ground for what could be the ‘greats’ of your life…right?

i'm here to get what's mine

At a young age, Whitney Houston (God bless her soul) discovered her gift.  In an interview with Diane Sawyer, she mentioned that a rapturous response from the congregation at New Hope had a powerful effect upon her: “I think I knew then that [my singing ability] was an infectious thing that God had given me.” (Culled from Biography.com)

What if you don’t have a gift within you? No honey! You do! It is the certainty of 9 to 5 that holds us back.  The confidence in stability that stifles our growth.  Allow yourself to break free and break out of the mold you created.

Make no mistake, your life was meant to be GREAT and yes, there’s enough room for everyone to be great within their own sphere.  The question is are you ready to get uncomfortable?

You’ve got to search for that purpose and when you find it, chase it like your life depends on it (Which it very well does)

what can you do

An old friend said, “convenient decisions become inconvenient real quick“.  To be honest, I have no idea what he meant BUT, think about it.  Easy decisions that lack thought and depth of purpose can easily get you stuck in positions you are least interested in.  Wasting time and energy that could be invested in something else.  The greatest value such a decision could add is exposing you to experiences that make you mad enough to desire change.  How many of those do you need to go through before you CHOOSE what you want to make out of YOUR life?

A purpose-filled passion, with earning potential requires your time.  Choose to get uncomfortable!

Does this mean a passionate, unskilled rapper should leave his 9 to 5? Nope!  Your gift will make way for you (Proverbs 18:16).  Your GIFT! Not Your ‘what-i-would-like-to-do-because-it-makes-money-or-looks-cool-or-jekyll-and-hyde-do-that-and-it-works-for-them’, but YOUR GIFT!

It might be inconvenient to get there but you will get there if you keep at it.  With inspiration from powerhouses like Jay-Z, it is genius not to give up.   There will be times when you kinda sorta regret your choice, but always remember why you started.  Your gift will not disappoint you, but you must first be ready to MOVE!

pack up and leave

The likes of Steve Harvey, Hilary Swank, Charlie Chaplin, Halle Berry and many more should inspire you.  Discomfort is not the easiest choice to make, but for the right reasons, it is rewarding.  You’ve got to stop dreaming about where you coulda-woulda been and start trying to BE there. You cannot cheat the grind.  It knows how much you invest and it won’t give you anything you haven’t worked for.  WORK!

One of the greatest assets you have is time.  It’s weird.  You have it, but you don’t really have it.  For some reason, we underestimate its worth.  Misusing your time steals from your accomplishments.  Redirect your time-investment.  Steve Jobs puts it so perfectly,

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

In addition, use your CONNECTIONS.  Build your network.  Activate your network.  Many times, we are too proud to use the people we know to get to where we want simply because we don’t want them to say they made us.  Sorry but that’s DUMB! If you have connections you don’t want to use, let me help you.

Aaliyah’s success was/is PARTLY the result of her connections.   Her family propelled her to greatness.  Her uncle, mother, cousin were all in on her success.  Activate the people you know.  You know them for a reason.

Lastly, MENTORSHIP is prime!  You don’t have to learn from your own mistakes.  You can learn from others.  The choice is yours!


you got it





One last thing.  Let’s recreate that map:


and reshape and re-edit the map as you deem fit but just don’t die having worked a life that is less than you desire.

Dami is the Founder and Creative Director of Dudunorth. She has an immense passion for media, marketing and all things creative.

2 Responses to “What Can You Do, Yoko?”

  1. Ellen, Reply

    Great post! LOL, the GIFs killed me.

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